How can you empower yourself in the face of rejection?

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Chief Technology Officer in Software, 11 - 50 employees
You have an initial negative feeling after being rejected, of course, but it gets easier over time. You have to focus on the opportunity or potential dividend of taking that risk. I encourage people to get rejected a lot: Put yourself in uncomfortable situations and make it a habit to ask for what you want. If you have a LinkedIn community and you're looking for a job, for example, reach out to people at the top.

I've done that in my career and it brought me some amazing mentors. I would reach out and say, "I love your work, your company's vision and culture. This is what I want to emulate. Can you give me a couple of tips?" A couple of them have become my regular mentors but there were also 100 other people who just didn't reply to me. The point is to get into that habit of pursuing rejection because after 100 rejections, you find that one opportunity, which is what makes you different from everyone else. You don't need to be great. You just have to be consistent. Keep daring to ask — there's nothing to lose.
Principal Consultant in Services (non-Government), 51 - 200 employees
I like to keep in mind that it's more important on how you rebound and not necessarily that you failed. Then, I'll make time to reflect, especially when things don't go my way. A personal retrospective can help you build on things that went well, things that didn't and how to do it better next time.

Also, if there was someone who was there, and you trust their judgement ask for feedback.
Director of Operations in Government, 501 - 1,000 employees
Force your self to get back up, get back to doing your best person sally and professionally and continue learning. 

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